The amount of money it takes to support two households after divorce is always going to be higher than the amount of money it takes to support one household during a marriage. That does not mean it is not doable and it does not mean it is not worth it. People often say, “I hear you, but I just want to make sure I get what I am entitled to. I don’t trust my spouse not to screw me over if we mediate.”
Since some people seem intent on fighting the good fight, here are some helpful tips for making sure your divorce is as lengthy and expensive as possible.
1. Decide that you just want to let the judge decide – despite the fact that in the majority of cases these days many judges simply scare both spouses into going back out into the hallway to come up with a settlement agreement anyway, resulting in a minimum of less than 5% of all cases ever seeing a direct order made by a judge.
2. Stay firmly entrenched in a belief or expectation of what you should get in your settlement, particularly as based on a friend’s divorce, an article you just read, or a calculator you found online.
3. No matter how comfortable you feel with a settlement proposal, refuse to accept it until your attorney agrees that you should.
4. Refuse to settle on each aspect of your divorce agreements until your ex is willing to acknowledge your value, position, opinion, rights, etc.
5. Withhold information requested by your spouse until he or she has agreed to do x, y, or z.
Steven Sufrin, Attorney at Law represents clients and advise cost effective strategies in divorce.